In between

Why is it that people come into your life only to leave you hanging....

Is it insecurity....a lack of confidence...do they think you might interpret it to mean something that it doesn't if they stay....

Are they just too busy?

I have a friend....maybe, once or twice a year we come into each other's life.....the conversation is great, we go back and forth sharing ideas, opinions, beliefs.....then bam! Nothing again for another few months.

I use to have a best friend....we did everything together. We were like sisters, really.....but I was the one who always had to initiate things.....if I didn't call, we could go for weeks without speaking. I quit calling, and we haven't seen each other since.

Does it make people feel vulnerable to stick around? Is it fear that keeps them away.....fear of commitment to a time consuming friendship? The messes, the worries..do they make us afraid and confused...do we want to quit, or rewind or start fresh...

Sometimes, we don't stick with things long enough to see how they all fit together....is there some lesson to be learned that we can only learn from them? Do we need them, or do they need us?

Life is full of introductions and goodbyes. It's the people that fall in-between that perplex me....the ones that are the first to say after an absence of several months...."it feels like we've never been apart...."well we have been apart, and who knows how much richer our life could have been if we'd stayed close.

So how do we do this?

John Lennon said, “Life is what happens when we are making other plans.”

I guess we miss out on a lot in life. That’s the cost. We miss out on the gorgeous, textured beauty of a life filled with friends.... stains and all.

Sure it takes time and committment and lots of energy on this side but what if we miss the possibility of a gorgeous, deep, rich filled life on the other side.

Maybe we need to spend more time on the in-between.